I have been the proverbial ball and chain to my husband for 15 years. He’s never complained about it, he’s ALWAYS so sweet, but I know that I’m hard to live with. Sometimes it’s hard to admit that I’m not really all-powerful mom. The hardest lesson I’ve learned so far in my marriage is that even though I push myself to my limits, I just can’t keep up with everything that needs to be done. I was raised by a single mom who never took a day off. She made it on an income that was far below the poverty level and never let us forget how lucky we were to make it. Now that I’m an adult, I feel like I owe it to my mom to be the same kind of tough woman that she was. Sometimes I forget that I don’t have to do it alone….my husband is there to support and help, too. Lately my husband has been helping a whole lot, especially keeping up with the laundry. It’s amazing how much cleaner the house is when the laundry is put away! I’ve always struggled to keep the laundry washed and folded, saving the putting-away for the weekends. Thankfully, my husband is much more efficient about those things. At first it was hard for me to let go of that control. In fact, it was hard for me to let go of control of ANYTHING. I read this list of 8 Things You Should Never Say To Your Husband and cringed inside…..I’ve done so many of these! My husband knows that I get upset when I have to tackle the dishes alone. It doesn’t matter if he’s within five seconds of coming into the kitchen after I have started cleaning up and offers to help, fire will probably come out of my eyes. I WANT him to help but I want him to do it without me doing it first. If you’ve been married or in a relationship, you probably understand that scenario all too well. Now that he’s helping out a lot more, it really does help me to appreciate him and the sacrifices he makes for our family. I’m so lucky that my husband is an extremely understanding and patient man.
So for Valentine’s Day I’m thinking that I really need to get him something nice. Maybe tickets to a movie that he’d like to see or a day out on the golf greens. I know that he’d like those things.
What hard lessons have you learned in life?